Most of the time when you come across articles on weddings, they are meant to be read by the bride. Even when the articles make an attempt at addressing both bride and groom, the real audience is fairly obvious, and it is not the man.
Now there are a couple of reasons for this. The first is the general cultural perception that grooms don't really care about the wedding. Speaking from personal experience and from observing most of my friends get married, I can say that this is far from the truth.
Another reason why not many wedding articles are written for the groom is that men just do not tend to look for advice, or listen to it when it is given. And they are far less likely to do so when the advice is in written form! Still, there are some things that a groom should think about as the big day approaches. On the off chance that some guy might read this, we are going to present the advice in point form, and there will be virtual beer and chips at the end.
* The stag party. A good rule of thumb here is that if she isn't going to do it for her party, don't do it for yours. You know what I am talking about here; strippers. Even is she says she doesn't mind odds are that she does a little bit. If she isn't going to see strippers, you shouldn't either.
* Planning. Your job is to be there during as much of the planning stage as you can. I don't think I have ever, in ten years of marriage, earned as many "marriage bonus points" as I did the day I met with my bride to be and her sisters and decorated our invitations. I am developmentally challenged in the scissors area and hate glitter, but a few hours of incompetence got me out of a lot of early trouble I am sure.
* Offering your opinion. Most of the time you really will agree with whatever she wants to do for the wedding. The trick is convincing her that you are telling the truth, and that you are listening. One good line, when you come under suspicion, is "I really do agree though. I think that is probably one of the reasons why we are so perfect for each other. We are on the same wave length most of the time!".
* Speak up. There will be times during the planning process where you might not agree with the direction things are taking. It's important to let her know what you really think; just try not to do it where it might seem as though you are "siding" with someone else. This is also good practice for after you tie the knot.
* The wedding day. A commercial for Moore's has said it better than anything I have ever thought of or heard. "On that special day, all eyes will be on her. But she will only be looking at you." Face it, you are the one about to make her dream come true. It's a pretty heavy responsibility but somewhere along the line you realized that she is worth it. Look at her and give her a smile that says you could not be happier.
About the Author: Leslie assists in wedding planning for a wedding favors store offering groomsmen gifts & wedding accessories.
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